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Mel’s work has been translated into 41 languages, her podcast is syndicated in 194 countries, and her TEDx Talk is one of the most viewed of all time. A New York Times bestselling author and self-publishing phenom, Mel’s work includes The High 5 Habit and The 5 Second Rule. Most importantly, her science-backed tools and relatable advice have changed the lives of millions of people worldwide.
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I don't know how much longer my parents are gonna be around. I'm so far away. I really feel like I should move back home to Michigan. That right there is her call to adventure. Rent going up, leaving a job you don't like, all of a sudden something changing with her family, that's an example of what I'm talking about. And how much more positive do you feel if you look at that situation and you frame it as a call to adventure? Very different than feeling like life is breaking apart. Let me give you now a positive example of what could be a call to adventure, and this is like a a a small thing. My husband, Chris, and our daughter, Sawyer, when it's snowing outside and it's the winter months, they go to this mountain nearby, and they do what's called skinning up the mountain, which is you take these skis and you put these sticky things on the bottom of them, and you basically hike up a mountain, a snow mountain with your skis on it. And then when you get to the top, you take the sticky things off, and now you can ski down. And Chris has organized this whole group of people that meet in the parking lot, and they now do it twice a week during the winter. I feel pulled to do it, but I'm scared of it. I'm not in great shape. I'm not as good as they are at this, especially thinking about pulling into a parking lot where Chris has organized this group, and there's 30 or 40 people there that do this all the time. But here's the thing. As I think about this, I feel the pull. I could see myself as somebody that gets up super early to do that, as somebody that has that level of adventure, of somebody that's doing something that's that cool. And I'm using the word pulled because that's an example of a call to adventure. For you, you might feel pushed, or you might feel pulled. Could be positive, could be negative.
I was ecstatic Right. For about 4 hours. And then again, going back to where I was before, the same stress and unhappiness And I thought something was wrong here with my model, but then I said, oh, no. It's when I become a world champion, then I'll be happy. And I continued towards that, and I played professionally for a few years. And, then I got injured. And I went to college And I said, okay. So I didn't make it in a in in in athletics, but I'll do it academically. And I went to Harvard and, I was a top student there, and I was miserable. And my sophomore year, very cold Boston morning. I went to my academic advisor, and I told her that I'm switching majors. That was a computer science major. And she said, what to and I said, well, I'm leading computer science and moving over to philosophy and psychology. And she said, why? And I said because I have 2 questions. 1st, why aren't I happy? 2nd, how can I become happier? And it's with these two questions that I then went on to get my undergraduate degree then went to graduate school in education and organizational behavior. All the time asking how can I help myself, individuals, couples, organizations, and, ultimately, nations increase their levels of happiness? And there was 30 years ago. Wow. That's quite a you sound like a really intense dude. No. Seriously. Like, you sound like somebody that was incredibly tightly wound, but that's not my experience of you right now. And so I only say that because to me, If somebody that is that driven and that competitive and that tightly wound can figure out, first of all, why you're not happy and also then figure out how to become a happier person and then translate that to everybody else. That's cool because that means the rest of us can probably do
To go. I woke up, and there was freaking snow outside. Here's the thing. Why would you waste any mental energy on that? Why cause stress? Why get frustrated? You can't control the weather. I mean, it would have been easy for me to pull open the shades and look outside and see my beautiful flower beds all covered with snow. Right? And then to start stressing out about whether or not the bulbs are all trashed and, oh my gosh, I spent all those money on those bulbs, and that they're not gonna but here's the thing. Does stressing about a change or anything? No. So why on earth do you and I let it affect us? Now I know it can feel obvious hearing me say you can't control the weather because you can't. But if it's so obvious, why do we cause ourself mental distress? Why do we complain about it? Why do we spend time, like, working ourselves up? You know, I'm thinking right now about how much energy a bride or a groom burns through in an entire year as they think ahead and they worry about what the weather is gonna be on their wedding day. Why do that? You can't control it. Once you have your plan a and your plan b, you're all set. So why even think about it? If it rains, it rains. But common sense isn't so common, and the weather does control you. I mean, how many times have you canceled plans or bailed on a run because bad weather has affected you? And I'm not talking about a tsunami that's hitting or a situation that's dangerous. I'm talking about normal, predictable, seasonal weather that you can expect. You've let a light rain shower prevent you from going outside and going on that walk, haven't you? Mhmm. Yeah. The dog can let itself out. I'm not going out in that stuff. Or heaven forbid, when it's super humid that you leave the air conditioning in your house. You'll cancel plans like that. Unless you work for The Weather Channel.
Things that you dream of, that you really, really want with what I call magnetic desire. Magnetic desire. How do you define magnetic desire? Well, the way that neuroplasticity works in the brain is through repetition and emotional intensity. So let me take it back to the survival things we were just speaking about. If you think, you know, I want to get married and have a family because that's what all my friends are doing, there may not be a huge emotional intensity behind that. That may be more to do with societal, parental, peer group expectation. If when you were a kid, you dreamt of being an actor Yep. Then if you actually try to start doing that, even if it's hard, that was your dream, that was what you feel you were put on this Earth to do, you will endure barriers and obstacles and refusals and difficulty and keep going. Whereas for other things, you might not. You know, we all we know that idea of giving up just before you dig up the gold. Right? If you've got magnetic desire, you won't give up. That's where the motivation piece comes in, and all of these are the science behind what contributes to manifesting what you want. So let's talk about manifesting. Have you always believed in manifesting? So looking back, I actually think I did it as a kid naturally. And it's so chicken and egg for me whether I got drawn to neuroscience and manifestation because that was innate in me from a child or whether I now live my life in that way because I've done so much research on it. I I honestly don't know the answer to that. The more I do the research, the more I consciously bring these things into my life. I look back and think, that's what I was like as a kid. That's what I was interested in as a kid. But I would say that once I studied the sciences in high school and then went to medical school, you know, worked slightly differently in the UK.
Gut reset program. I've been doing the intermittent fasting. I've been doing a lot of zone 2 cardio. And you know what? It's working. Pretty cool. You know? Kinda neat that when you take the simple advice that's backed by science and you actually do it, you see the results. However, 4 months in, I've learned a lot, and I'm seeing a lot of progress. And I want to assess where I am and make a very intentional and strategic decision about where I'm gonna go next. And let me give you another example of why a pivot is super important. Because another goal that I set at the beginning of the year when I did the workshop on creating the best year was I really wanted to make it a goal to save money. I haven't had a squat about it. I mean, nada. Nothing. In fact, if I had to guess, I've been so unintentional about it that I've not only not made saving happen, I've probably spent more money than I usually do. Now this goal still kinda matters to me. But if I plan on saving money and making that happen, then I gotta use this workshop to give myself a reality check because I'm gonna need to do something different. I gotta show up differently in the next 6 months. I gotta have a different approach. And so in both of these examples, whether it's the strength training, which has been working, or my goal of saving money, which I failed miserably at, I will benefit from taking a beat and using this workshop to create a strategic pivot. Right? You refine what you're doing and clarify your goals, or you remove it to make room for something that you actually care about. And by taking the time today to go through this workshop with you, as I teach
